You’ve heard it said that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. I’d like to add that it also forms your character.
Character has been defined as the sum total of all the little decisions you make daily, even when no one is looking. Character and effective leadership go hand in hand. By your daily actions your character is formed over time. Others decide whether or not they want to follow you based largely on their perception of your character, and nothing reveals your character quite like your response to life’s trials and tribulations. It’s during those moments-of-truth that you discover who you are and what you’re made of, but they also provide opportunity for you to alter or refine your character.
Be your own best coach:
- Identify your current challenges and note how you have been handling each one.
- Ask yourself: “Am I dealing with each challenge as a victim or a victor?” Your conversations will tell the tale. Are your conversations focused on what you want or what you have? What you can do or what you can’t do? If focused on what you have or what you can’t do, you’re looking in the wrong direction to move forward. Make a new choice.
- Keep a daily log or journal of those events that take place throughout the day and ask, “Do the decisions I made today inspire me? Give me energy? If the answer is no, then those decisions won’t inspire and energize others either. Rethink your decisions. If you have had to make difficult decisions that no one, including you, will like, then consider how you will communicate those decisions in a way that will inspire and motivate others to bring out their best.
- How would others judge your character? Why?
- In what areas could you make decisions that will alter or refine your character, giving you an opportunity to grow and change as a human being?
- Ask yourself, “Who am I in secret when nobody is looking? Am I proud of that person?”